Why do we want marriage equality?
Gay and lesbian couples want to get married for most of the same reasons that straight couples want to get married: love, rite of passage, and celebration of commitment. However, if the marriage equality debate was just limited to emotions and social mores, it wouldn’t be a civil rights issue. Straight couples get married for love, but they also do it to claim access to the more than 1,000 legal protections and benefits that come with marriage licenses to safeguard their families and protect themselves. Some of the protections and obligations of marriage in the U.S.A. which are denied to married gay couples include: hospital visitations, child custody, adoption, parenting rights, medical decision-making power, automatic inheritance, standing to sue for wrongful death of a spouse, divorce protections, spousal and child support, access to family insurance policies, exemption from property tax upon death of a spouse, immunity from being forced to testify against one’s spouse, domestic violence protections, and more. The Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) actually excludes married gay couples from 1,138 federal protections and rights, such as: social security benefits, the Family and Medical Leave Act, health insurance continuation of health coverage (COBRA), immigration law, Medicaid, retirement plans, federal tax laws and more. *
Civil and political rights are a class of rights that protect individuals’ freedom from unwarranted infringement by governments and private organizations, and ensure one’s ability to participate in the civil and political life of the state without discrimination or repression. Civil rights include the ensuring of peoples’ physical integrity and safety; protection from discrimination.
here are just a few of the thousands of rights and protections denied to LGBT citizens & spouses:
Right to marry / right to divorce
Child custody rights
Right to a fair trial
Social security benefits
Freedom of gender expression
Spousal and child support
Federal taxes / joint taxes
Legal protection from gender-identity-based discrimination
Exemption from property tax upon death of a spouse
Immunity from being forced to testify against one’s spouse
Legal protection from discrimination based on sexuality
Health insurance continuation of health coverage
Medical decision-making power on behalf of a spouse
Legal protection from housing discrimination
Right to free expression and free association
The right to serve openly in the military
Right to medial coverage and safe access to care
Standing to sue for wrongful death of a spouse
Access to equal education
Access to family insurance policies
Domestic violence protections
Right to form a family
Marriage Equality Worldwide
LGBTQ people have been openly struggling and fighting to achieve legal recognition of their relationships for almost half a century.
In most countries, gay marriage is illegal. In fact, there are still many nations in which gay people are arrested and punished, by way of imprisonment or death. Homosexual acts remain punishable by death in Iran, Mauritania, Saudi Arabia, Sudan, United Arab Emirates, Yemen, some parts of Nigeria and Somalia. Gay people are imprisoned for life in; Barbados, Bangladesh, Guyana, Maldives, Myanmar/Burma, Pakistan, Qatar, Sierra Leone, Tanzania and Uganda.
As of 2010, there are nine countries that are fully non-discriminatory – meaning that they allow gay marriage, as well the right to adopt children. These nations are Argentina, Belgium, Canada, Iceland, the Netherlands, Norway, Sweden, South Africa, and Spain. Portugal is a close contender for this list, although they still do not allow gay couples to adopt.
History of the fight for marriage equality in the USA
In the United States, the road to total marriage equality has only just begun to form. The legal battles began in 1969, when the Metropolitan Community Church performed the nation’s first gay wedding ceremony. It was not legally recognized, and in 1970, the church filed the a lawsuit seeking legal recognition of same-sex marriages. They lost, and with that, the legal fight for gay marriage went quiet for over two decades.
In 1993, the issue of gay marriage moved back into the spotlight, after several gay couples filed a discrimination suit against the state of Hawaii, which had denied their requests for a marriage license. Their claim was that the state had no practical reason to refuse them, and the Supreme Court agreed. It was ruled that the government of Hawaii had to prove that refusing to recognize their relationships was in the best interest of the state, or give them the same rights and benefits as straight couples. The next day, the judge issued a stay on his order.
That stay remained in effect until an amendment to the state constitution effectively banned gay marriages across the nation. In September of 1996, President Bill Clinton signed into law the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) which prevented the federal government from recognizing same-sex marriages and dictated that no state must recognize another state’s marriage license if it belongs to a same-sex couple.
This event sparked GLBTQ people to start challenging the law, state by state. In 1997, two gay couples in Vermont brought a lawsuit requesting that their state issue them marriage licenses. In 1999, the state Supreme Court issued a ruling that required Vermont to offer same-sex couples the same rights that heterosexual couples receive through marriage. This was groundbreaking in that it introduced a legal precedent, and in that it established civil unions as an institution.
Almost four years later, Massachusetts became the first state to legalize gay marriage, not just civil unions. Connecticut also ruled in favor of marriage rights for gays in 2008, and since then, New Hampshire, Massachusetts, Vermont and New York have all followed and changed their civil union laws to allow GLBT people the right to legally marry.
California brought much media attention to the gay marriage debate when, in 2008, they ruled in favor of gay marriage, but then allowed the issue to become a ballot item to be decided by voters. California voters, heavily influenced by out-of-state religious propaganda ($40 million was spent on anti-gay marriage campaigns,) passed the proposition, effectively allowing the state constitution to ban same-sex marriage.That ballot item was called Proposition 8, and it has re-ignited the marriage equality movement.
Current state of the fight for marriage equality in the USA
There are several states who allow gay civil unions or domestic partnership agreements. Their rights, however, as a gay couple are still limited.
Civil Unions became available in New Jersey in February 2007.
In California, since the passage of Prop 8, gay and lesbian couples who were married between June and November 2008 are still legally married, but no new legal marriages can be performed in California.
Hawaii offers reciprocal beneficiary rights to same-sex couples.
Maine instituted a domestic partner registry in 2004.
Washington State offers registered gay and lesbian couples all the rights of marriage via domestic partnerships.
Nevada domestic partnerships offer all of the same state wide benefits of marriage.
Oregon has a domestic partnership law that offers all the state benefits of marriage.
Thirty states have enacted Constitutional amendments banning same-sex marriage. Some of these states even went so far as to include in their amendment specific language which would prohibit the recognition of partnerships similar to marriage, removing even the limited legal protections given through civil unions and domestic partnerships.
The tremendous efforts of tens of thousands of LGBTQ people and their allies has brought equality in a few states and some form of protection in others. This is a battle that we are going to be fighting for years, but one which must be fought. If we mobilize, the next decade could bring incredible changes to the lives of all gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender couples. Regardless of your feelings about marriage itself, the issue is one of equality. Additionally, if we fight for common-law partnerships for LGBTQ and straight couples to be legally recognized as equal to marriage, we can begin to distance ourselves from the religious fundamentalism, misogyny, and capitalism inherent to the traditional institution of marriage.
* GLAAD, Media Reference Guide: Full Review